When I was 18, I found myself sitting in a financial services office with my hands sweating, heart pounding and throat so full of tension I could barely swallow.
I was sitting in a presentation about money and what it meant.
What I didn’t know is that the discomfort I felt at the time had nothing to do with cold, hard cash.
It had to do with me.
It had to do with my truth.
And it’s what has led me to the path I’ve taken to this day.
I realized that while unlike most 18-year-old kids, who had very little understanding of money, I actually had quite a bit.
However, what I didn’t know was who I was, what I wanted to do with my life, and the magnificence I was truly destined for. And even if I did know, I wouldn’t have believed it at the time.
That day led me on a long journey that’s spanned more than 20 years to date and will continue for the rest of my life.
It led me on the journey of discovering myself and what I am capable of.
I’ll spare you all the details (for now). Let’s just say I took my journey very seriously and since that day have invested more than $300,000 to work with coaches, mentors, mastermind groups, and be involved in elite training programs all over the world.
I became an excellent student and started listening to my wise mentors, whom I was paying a lot of money.
While I learned a lot along the way, the most important lesson I have learned is when NOT to listen to them and when to sit back, be quiet and trust myself.
Dr. Wayne Dyer says “If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you.”
This is so incredibly powerful, because you have all the answers inside of you. You just may not know how to find them and where to find them yet.
That’s what the journey’s all about. You uncovering and unleashing your most magnificent self.
That’s what Abundance Academy is all about. You getting to know and love yourself better than anyone else and being unapologetic along the way.
Wherever you are on your journey, realize there’s always a next step.
Here are 5 ways you can stop listening to everyone else and start listening to (and trusting yourself) more of the time.
You’ve got to put good stuff in to get good stuff out.
Read and listen to positive resources that fill your world with good. Check out our recommended reading list for a place to start. – Book List
Ask yourself intelligent questions about yourself and get to know yourself from the inside out. If you want help with this, consider the Abundance Accelerator Program.
2. Be silent
Meditate, sit in quiet or even go for a walk.
Spend more time with less noise (keep your phone away from you at this time) and pay attention to the messages and signs that come your way.
Realize that the letters in silent also spell listen. Many people hear and don’t really listen. Listening is the key. The messages are there and come to you faster and faster as you hone your intuition.
3. Get objective
We can listen and speak in two ways: story and fact. While both have their place, when you are in story, emotions tend to arise. This is great when you’re watching a romantic or funny movie. Not so good when you’re stressed or need to make intelligent decisions.
That’s when you turn to fact and be objective.
The best way to do that on your own is put pen to paper. Write whatever’s going on in your head exactly how it is, don’t hold back. That way you get things out of you.
Then rewrite it to how you would love it to be. You’ll notice you start to dream and feel better. You’ll also see yourself be in a more resourceful state. From here, you’re in a position to find the answers you seek.
You’ll also notice that your initial story is likely filled with a lot of drama, not productive thoughts, beliefs or habits and is really quite silly when you look at it.
Decision is something that entered into my life in a large way from my mentor Bob Proctor. He studied decision and encouraged all of his students to become excellent decision makers.
It’s one skill we are not taught effectively by our parents or in school.
Decisions are something that must be made on your own without being influenced by the opinions of others and it eliminates confusion by bringing order to your mind.
If you think you’re a bad decision maker, realize you can change that. You just have to practice. So decide to become a masterful decision maker.
5. Review, reflect, refine, repeat
In the 1993 movie Sister Act 2, Whoopi Goldberg makes a point that if you wanna be somebody and you wanna go somewhere, you’d better wake up and pay attention (there’s even a song “Wake Up And Pay Attention with amazing lyrics you can check out).
It’s true. Mindlessly wandering through life won’t get you to where you want to be.
Each day and with each major project or event that comes your way, review it, reflect on what went well and what could be improved on, decide to refine it and go back out to do it again.
Progress is the key to happiness and a fulfilling life. And that’s ultimately what we’re here on this planet to do… live a happy, fulfilling life where we can harness the power of our incredible gifts and unapologetically share them with the world.