When we imagined Glammm Day, we didn’t want “just another shopping event.” We set out to create a boutique, in-person urban retreat in Toronto where ambitious women could align who they are on the inside with how they show up on the outside—so your presence arrives before you speak.
This is the inside story of what we built, why we built it, and why the room changed the women who stepped into it.
What Glammm Day Is (and why it’s different)
Glammm Day blends three experiences into one powerful arc:
Pre-Session (Inner Work): We prime identity, clarify values and vision, and set simple cues for the way you want to be felt—before a single outfit is chosen.
Boutique Styling at Freda’s: A high-touch, curated session at Freda’s High Fashion Boutique (45 Elm St, Toronto) with image consultant Michelle Gallant, AICI and Freda’s expert stylists. Think fit, color, silhouette, and pieces that express who you’re becoming—not what’s trending.
Private Dinner: We close with an elegant, private dining experience next door to integrate the shift, connect deeply, and anchor the identity you just embodied.
Why it works: Inner clarity + expert eyes + an elevated room. You don’t just talk about confidence—you leave wearing it.
Why We Wanted to Put This On
For years, our community asked for an in-person experience that felt intimate, intentional, and truly transformative. Many of us have done the “inner work.” But too often the outer signals—our image, wardrobe, presence—lag behind the identity we’ve grown into.
We created Glammm Day to close that gap.
To turn “I know who I am” into “Everyone in the room can feel it.”
To replace decision fatigue with a few, right-for-you pieces.
To swap surface networking for a curated circle of women who choose depth over small talk.
And yes—to make it fun. Aligned, elevated, and joyful.
Shout-Outs: The Partners Who Made It Beautiful
Freda’s High Fashion Boutique: A Toronto icon with a welcoming, expert team. The atmosphere and care were a masterclass in boutique hospitality.
Michelle Gallant, AICI: Our image consultant and personal stylist partner. Her eye for color, proportion, and presence unlocked clarity and confidence for every woman in the room.
The Women: You brought courage, care, and curiosity. Your willingness to try something new—then be witnessed in it—made the night electric.
What It Did for the Women Who Attended
The words we heard most: seen, supported, certain.
Seen: Women recognized themselves—clearly—in the mirror. Not the “try-hard” version. The true one.
Supported: With Michelle’s guidance and Freda’s stylists, the guesswork disappeared. Decisions became simple: Does this reflect the woman I am becoming?
Certain: Posture changed. Choices got cleaner. “I could wear this to… and feel powerful” became the new normal.
They left with more than garments. They left with evidence: “This is how I look when my inner and outer match.” That evidence bleeds into the next pitch, the next stage, the next room.
What Actually Happened (the flow)
Welcome & Connection: A warm arrival, light bites, and introductions set a relaxed, VIP tone.
Inner–Outer Talk: A short training on identity, presence, and simple cues that elevate how you’re perceived and how you feel.
Curated Styling: Hands-on edits and try-ons with Michelle and Freda’s stylists—color near the face, silhouettes that harmonize with your shape, a signature detail to signal clarity.
Headshots & Content Moments: Natural, joy-filled images so you leave with assets you’ll actually use.
Private Dinner: Deep conversation, elegant service, and a celebratory close.
The Science (in plain language)
First impressions form fast. People read your presence long before your words land. That’s human, not shallow.
Enclothed cognition: What you wear can change how you think and perform—when the clothing carries meaning for you. Translation: the right piece can become a cue your nervous system recognizes as “leader,” “calm,” “capable,” or “commanding.”
Proximity matters: The room you’re in shapes your standards. Selecting aligned pieces in the company of women who hold you high makes brave choices easier.
Glammm Day operationalizes all three—on purpose.
What Women Told Us (themes from feedback)
“Most aligned event you’ve done.”
“I finally understand my colors and shape—shopping won’t be random anymore.”
“I felt like a VIP—from the welcome to the photos to dinner.”
“I’m excited to show up for my next event, not anxious.”
“Please run it again—weekend, please!”
We hear you. A spring edition with weekend timing is on the horizon.
Why This Matters for Your Career (and your sanity)
Mornings simplify. Fewer pieces, sharper choices, more energy for real work.
Signals clean up. Your image stops undercutting your message.
Opportunities multiply. Confident, congruent presence attracts rooms that match your standards.
Community sustains you. The circle you build here keeps your momentum warm—long after the night ends.
For the Skeptics: “Isn’t this just fashion?”
No. This is stewardship.
Stewardship of your message, mission, and the way you’re meant to be felt in rooms that matter. We’re not accumulating; we’re aligning. We’re choosing fewer, better pieces that mean something—to your identity, your leadership, and the impact you’re here to make.
Ready to Experience It Next Time?
We’re planning the next Glammm Day (Toronto) for spring, likely on a weekend. If you want first dibs when doors open, get on the list now.
→ Email Megan at bookings@myabundanceacademy.ca with the subject line “Glammm Day Waitlist” and we’ll save your spot for early access.
Quick FAQ
Who is it for? Growth-minded, values-driven professional women who want their inner work and outer presence aligned—leaders, founders, executives, and creators.
Do I have to buy anything? No. There’s zero pressure to purchase. If you do buy, it will be intentional: pieces that serve your vision.
I’m intimidated by fashion. Perfect. Many of us were. That’s why Michelle’s expert guidance and the warmth at Freda’s make this feel safe, empowering, and fun.
What if I can’t make a weeknight? Spring will likely be a weekend edition. Join the waitlist and we’ll keep you posted.
Final Word
Confidence you can wear. Connection you can feel. When your inner alignment meets your outer presence, rooms open—and so do you.
If this spoke to you, email Megan GLAMMM DAY at bookings at myabundanceacademy dot ca to join the Glammm Day waitlist. We can’t wait to welcome you into the room.
This past weekend I had the privilege of attending DestinyFest 2025—and I can confidently say it was one of the most powerful growth experiences I’ve had in a long time.
Last year I attended with a Gold ticket, which was fantastic. But this year, I upgraded to VIP, and it changed everything.
And when the main event rolled around—with more than 2,000 people in attendance—it wasn’t just bigger. It was deeper, more intentional, and in my opinion, twice as powerful.
I want to share some of my biggest takeaways with you, because whether you were in the room or not, these lessons can shift how you show up in your business, your relationships, and your life.
Lessons from VIP Day
The energy in the VIP room was completely different from the year before. Instead of small talk about weather or news, the conversations were about tens and hundreds of millions in revenue, investment opportunities, and creating purpose-driven funds for charitable work.
A few things that really stood out:
When you pay, you play bigger. The caliber of conversations and opportunities expand dramatically when you invest in yourself.
Relationships over pitching. Deals don’t happen through cold approaches—they happen through trust, connection, and referrals.
Nuance is everything. Successful leaders don’t always do new things, but they do common things with excellence and precision.
Data + intuition. Follow your gut, but track the numbers. Data can show you when you’re accelerating—or standing still.
Patience matters. Technology has made us expect instant results, but real breakthroughs come from playing the long game.
AI as a tool. Used with integrity, AI isn’t a crutch—it’s a powerful collaborator.
And perhaps most importantly: your story matters. It’s the one thing nobody else can replicate, and when shared with authenticity, it connects people in profound ways.
Lessons from the Main Event
The main event was buzzing with energy—more than 2,000 people and some of the most inspiring speakers: Jim Kwik, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, Danielle LaPorte, Lisa Johnson, Alex Cattoni, Sally Hogshead, Adele Devlin, Aleric Heck, Staci Gray, Amanda Dobson, Jeremy Stickney and more.
Here are a few of the takeaways that stuck with me:
Your life is the sum total of your choices. Every decision moves you toward or away from your goals.
Think from the goal, not of the goal. Your future vision becomes the filter for decisions you make today.
Set impossible goals. They force you to change how you operate—linear paths won’t cut it.
Saying no is essential. The most successful people decline almost everything that isn’t aligned.
Business vs. brand. Business is what you sell. Brand is how you make people feel.
Joy is a magnet. It’s not something you wait for—it’s what attracts opportunities to you.
Destiny isn’t a checklist—it’s a frequency. You don’t tick boxes to find it—you align with it.
Don’t be a passenger in your dream. Become a conscious architect. Stop drifting, start directing.
One theme that ran through everything: simplicity. Complexity is the enemy of progress. If you want to play at a higher level, simplify your systems, your focus, and your message.
Event Strategy: How to Make the Most of Any Conference
It wasn’t just the speakers that made the experience powerful. It was how I prepared and followed through:
Act immediately. Send the message, make the connection, register for the thing on the spot.
Create a follow-up list. Have a special place in your notes for things you’ll revisit after the event.
Schedule review time. Without review, you’ll lose most of what you learned in a week. With it, you’ll retain up to 80–90%.
Dress with intention. Show up as your future self, not your “default.”
Go VIP if you can. The conversations, food, and access are worth it.
Why I’ll Be Back (and Why You Should Too)
I’ve already got my ticket for DestinyFest 2026. One of the things I love about this community is how generous it is—when you purchase in advance, you’re not only securing your own growth, you’re helping sponsor people who might not otherwise be able to attend.
This event has changed the way I see myself, my work, and my impact. And if you’re serious about growth, clarity, and playing bigger, I can’t recommend it enough.
Final thought: Events like this aren’t just about the content. They’re about the transformation that happens when you step into a room full of people who are playing bigger, thinking differently, and committed to impact.
And when you leave? You’ll never see yourself—or your future—the same way again.
The Power of Language
Language isn’t just about communicating with others—it has a profound effect on how we think, feel, and act. Words shape our reality, from how we perceive ourselves to how we interact with the world. In fact, research shows that language influences both our mindset and neural patterns. Dr. John K. Pollock, a prominent psychologist, has found that the way we speak directly affects our neurological wiring. Positive language strengthens neural pathways, while negative language can reinforce limiting beliefs, stifle growth, and hinder personal development. Source: Dr. John K. Pollock, “The Power of Language in Shaping Your Reality,” Harvard Psychological Review, 2021.
When I was first introduced to the power of language at a seminar in California, I was astounded by how common phrases we all use daily were being re-framed to encourage a more empowered mindset. The speaker said, “Money isn’t the root of all evil; the love of money is.” This shifted my perspective on many things I had unconsciously accepted. But my real breakthrough came during my NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) training, where I learned that the words we speak directly influence our reality.
During my NLP sessions, we were taught to catch and correct contradictions in our language, as they reflect deeper, often unexamined beliefs. For example, if I declared a goal but said something like “I’d love to do this but…” that immediately sends mixed signals to my subconscious. NLP helped me to be intentional and deliberate with my language, and that’s something I now pass on to my clients.
There’s no greater compliment than when clients say, “I wasn’t on your call, but I could hear your words inside my head,” or “I’m catching myself so much more every day and even teaching these linguistic patterns to my kids. Game changer!” The results speak for themselves.
In this article, we won’t go over an exhaustive list of words to eliminate, but I will share 11 common words or phrases to watch out for. Incorporate them into your daily life, check in with them for 30 days, and watch how your mindset shifts and your results improve. Start with one word per day or week—do what feels right for you!
11 Words and Phrases to Eliminate for a Mindset Transformation
But > And Saying “but” cancels out everything before it. Instead, replace it with “and” to expand possibilities:
“I want this AND I’m going to find a way to make it happen.”
“I’d love to, AND I will consider it next time.”
Understand > Get it If you don’t “understand,” you’re merely in a state of learning. Change your mindset to:
“Keep going until you get it.” This keeps you focused on learning, not frustration.
Confident > Competent We often say we lack confidence, but we’re all confident in something we’ve practiced. Replace “confidence” with “competence”:
“I’m confident in my ability to learn.”
“I will develop competence in this new area.”
Perfect > Do your best Perfectionism can be paralyzing. Instead, focus on doing your best:
“I will do my best today, and that’s enough.”
Try > Do your best “Try” gives you an easy out. To be more committed:
“I will do my best to achieve this goal.” You’ll feel more accountable to your intentions.
Confused > I’m about to learn something Rather than getting stuck in confusion, view it as a learning opportunity:
“I’m about to learn something new.” This primes your brain to seek solutions and growth.
I should, I must, I have to > I choose to, I could, I want to “Should” and “have to” put the power outside of you. Reclaim your agency with:
“I choose to take this action.”
“I want to do this task today.”
Hard > Effort-filled “Hard” can feel discouraging. Replace it with “effort-filled” to focus on the journey:
“This is an effort-filled task, and I will give it my best.”
Right > Effective Being “right” doesn’t always lead to success. Instead, focus on being effective:
“I will focus on being effective in my approach.”
Nice > Kind “Nice” can sometimes feel superficial. When describing a behavior, shift to “kind”:
“He was kind and thoughtful.”
Negative words > Say it how you mean it Stop using double negatives or vague language. Be clear and direct:
“I feel great today” instead of “I’m not too bad.”
Why This Matters: The Neuroscience Behind Language
The words we use don’t just describe our world; they create it. Neuroscience studies show that positive language activates neural circuits that promote confidence and cognitive functioning, while negative words can activate stress responses and limit brain plasticity. Language shapes the way we perceive the world, and ultimately, how we show up in it. Source: Dr. Andrew Newberg, “Words Can Change Your Brain,” 2014.
By replacing negative or limiting words with empowering alternatives, you actively shift your mindset, rewire your brain for success, and begin seeing more opportunities. This simple but powerful shift in language can radically change your life, business, and relationships.
Ready to Elevate Your Mindset?
If you’re ready to expand your life and business beyond your current limitations, consider implementing these linguistic shifts into your daily routine. For deeper transformation and to explore how to elevate your mindset, be at your best, and radically expand your life through language and beyond, reach out to us at Abundance Academy. Our tailored programs are designed to help you align your inner dialogue with the success you desire.
At the Abundance Academy, we believe that real growth comes from real conversations. That’s why, every year, we host a Summer Market Research Study—a series of intimate conversations with our clients, alumni, and community members to better understand where they’re at, what they need, and how we can serve them better.
This isn’t a quick survey or a passive form. These are real, in-depth conversations guided by our core values: ✨ Authenticity. Intimacy. Connection. Growth. Value.
And for the first time ever, we’re opening up our findings to the public.
Whether you’re part of our community or simply someone who serves high-achieving women in any capacity—this report will give you a clear, honest, and human snapshot of where people’s hearts and heads are right now.
🧭 Why We Did This (And Why It Matters to You)
Too many programs, services, and strategies are built on assumptions, not conversations. But we wanted the truth. We asked:
What do you actually want and need right now?
Where is the industry falling short?
What would surprise and delight you beyond belief?
Is there anything else we should know?
The responses were raw, honest, and often vulnerable. And they revealed a lot about what high-achieving women—those who are already doing “well” by external standards—are really craving right now.
Whether you’re a coach, service provider, entrepreneur, or simply someone who cares about people—what we found may just help you better support your clients, customers, team, and self.
🔥 The Top Needs, Desires, and Pain Points
If we had to distill all our findings into one phrase, it would be this:
“I want more time, more clarity, more structure, and more peace of mind—without losing what makes me me.”
Here are the consistent themes we heard over and over again:
1. Time & Energy Management
“I just need quiet time.”
“I want more time to do the things that matter.”
“I’m in reactive mode too often. I need to be more proactive.”
2. Structure & Focus
“I need more routine, more accountability, and less chaos.”
“There are too many ideas and not enough execution.”
“I need systems that actually help me follow through.”
3. Real Connection
“I’m surrounded by people but still feel lonely.”
“I want to be seen, heard, and understood.”
“I need someone to think with me, not just talk at me.”
4. Clarity & Purpose
“What do I actually want?”
“Am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing with my life?”
“I need to reconnect with myself, my goals, and my values.”
5. Growth with Joy
“I want to feel excited to wake up in the morning.”
“I want more fun, more freedom, more fulfillment.”
“Personal growth has to feel real—not just another course.”
🧨 Where the Industry Is Falling Short
We didn’t just ask what people need—we asked what’s not working.
Here’s what your peers had to say about the coaching, business, and personal growth spaces:
❌ “Too much info, not enough insight.” Overwhelm is real. There’s no shortage of programs—but few that help you actually implement consistently.
❌ “It feels one-size-fits-all.” People want to be treated like individuals, not just another sale in a funnel.
❌ “There’s no human in it anymore.” Between pre-recorded content and automation, many feel like they’re missing meaningful connection.
❌ “It’s missing depth and follow-through.” They’re tired of surface-level fixes. They want to go deeper—but with structure and support.
❌ “The industry promises too much and delivers too little.” There’s frustration with overhyped messaging, quick-fix solutions, and people who sell well but don’t coach well.
❌ “Coaches are being certified without real mastery.” Several voiced concerns about coaching quality, ethics, and lack of mentoring within the industry.
💡 What We’re Doing with the Feedback
We didn’t ask deep questions just to file them away—we’re taking clear, aligned, and meaningful action.
Here’s what we’re already doing—or actively planning—to respond to what you shared with us:
1. Reinforcing the Basics—With More Repetition & Depth
The fundamentals work—when you actually do them. We’re committed to simplifying, repeating, and deepening the core tools and teachings that get results. Think less fluff, more follow-through. We’re doubling down on clarity, structure, and focus—not just in what we teach, but in how we support implementation over time.
2. Creating Clearer Roadmaps & Routines
You asked for structure, timelines, and context—so you know where you are and what’s next. We’re designing updated client journeys, 30-day sprints, and guided maps for each major program. These include more heads-up notices, clear step-by-step instructions, and aligned check-in points. Expect more rhythm and more routine—for you, for our team, and for how we deliver every touchpoint.
3. Offering Personalized & Human-Centered Support
No two people are the same. That’s why we’re expanding customized touchpoints—like 1:1 calls, mini-strategy sessions, and live personal check-ins—to ensure you’re seen, supported, and stretched in a way that’s right for you. We’ll continue to offer group formats that include individualized coaching and are committed to being one of the few programs that truly knows its people by name and by heart.
4. Helping You Slow Down to Go Deeper
Rushing through an exercise just to tick a box? Not here. We’re encouraging clients to revisit key practices daily—like scripting, belief rewrites, vision casting, and intentional reflection—so they can sink in and interconnect across all areas of life. There’s magic in repetition with intention, and we’ll help you stay consistent and curious over time.
5. Mindset Work That Moves the Needle
We’re integrating more hypnotic tools, pre-recorded visualizations, and mindset-based content, including the Hypnotize Yourself to Success series with Demi. You’ll also see more content around emotional integration, inner peace, nervous system grounding, and soul-level alignment—including spiritual/God-based teachings and wisdom studies for those who resonate.
6. Guided Morning Rituals + Weekend Touchpoints
We’ll be sharing a new aspect to our Morning Magic series and continue to expand it, helping you align your energy first thing in the day. But we’re also working on ways to help you carry that presence throughout the rest of your day so you have less hustle and more harmony.
7. Tangible Tools You Can Touch
You asked for printed and bound workbooks, branded binders, and limited edition portfolios—and the design phase will begin soon. These aren’t just pretty accessories. They’re part of your transformation toolkit and physical anchors of the inner work you’re doing.
8. More Human Connection. More You.
We’re continuing our monthly live events, group circles, and individual connection calls to keep the community thriving. Personalized experiences in a group format aren’t just a “nice-to-have”—they’re a signature part of what makes our programs different. You said it. We’re leaning in.
9. Serving Across Time Zones
We heard you—especially our PST and MT friends! We’re exploring ways to better serve all regions with flexible scheduling, access to replay pods, and live call options that meet you where you are in the world. Stay tuned as details are unfolded.
10. Transparency in What’s Coming Up
We’ll be sharing more about what topics are coming, what you can expect, and when. Clear timelines. Simple structure. Fewer surprises. And more opportunities for you to plan your own growth journey in alignment with your life and business.
All of this—and more—is being integrated into our programs now and throughout the rest of 2025.
This isn’t about launching 50 new things. It’s about refining, re-aligning, and recommitting to what works—and delivering it with excellence, care, and heart.
How You Can Use These Insights
If you serve high-achieving women—or are one yourself—here are a few ways to use this report to your advantage:
✏️ Reflect on your offers
Are you solving real problems people are facing right now?
🛠️ Build in more implementation
Add accountability, simplicity, and emotional support. They don’t need more info—they need to live it.
🤝 Human > Hype
Ditch the shiny promises and start delivering real conversations, structure, and co-created outcomes.
🔍 Go deeper in your questions
Don’t just ask “What’s your goal?” Ask, “What’s stopping you from getting there?” or “What would it look like to feel excited again?”
📨 Want More Reports Like This?
We’ll be sharing deeper dives into topics like self-image, emotional resilience, high-performance habit building, and business clarity in future reports and training.
And if you’re already subscribed, watch your inbox—we have some exciting resources, trainings, and planning tools dropping soon to help you finish 2025 strong and step powerfully into 2026.
❤️ Final Word
We’re not here to guess what you need. We’re here to ask, listen—and build accordingly.
This report is more than a study. It’s a snapshot of where our people are, and a compass for where we’re headed next.
Thanks for being part of this movement. Let’s raise the bar—together.
With so much appreciation, Larisa + Team Abundance Academy “Helping high-achieving women unlock time, money, freedom, and fulfillment—on their terms.”
Accountability is a key ingredient to a thriving future. It’s like a success insurance policy.
When you are held accountable, you take full responsibility and show up. So why do people find it easier to show up for others and bail on themselves?
When you’re tired and on your own, it’s all-too tempting to skip the daily workout you committed to and make an excuse to rest. But if you’ve got a trainer waiting for you, you’ll get up and do something regardless. You have accountability built in.
This year, we decided to beta test a new program, the Abundance Focus System, a system designed to boost focus, productivity and accountability for participants.
Client feedback and results from that have been outstanding (more on that at a later time), however, one of the components we decided to include were 2-part quarterly planning sessions.
First, we walk through the planning process as a group, then Team Abundance meets with each participant 1:1 to review the plan and help fine-tune it for success.
In this article, I wanted to highlight some of the key themes and insights that have come up from these sessions, as some of them will likely be helpful for you as you embark on your journey of personal growth and development.
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1. Know what you want and have a plan
Clarity is power. Your conscious mind is a goal setter and your unconscious mind is a goal getter. While your plan can and will likely change over time, you need to have a target to aim for and that target must be crystal clear.
Talking your plans through can help you gain more clarity of your desires, see gaps and fill them.
For example, if you’d like to begin networking more on LinkedIn, it’s key to know why you’re there and what you hope to gain from it. That way you can be more intentional with how you connect with them. Perhaps you’re looking for someone for one of three things: (1) become a client (2) refer business (3) provide a visibility opportunity. When you talk to people, you can decide what category they fit into or if they may be able to help set you up with someone in one of the three categories you’re looking for and direct the direction of the conversation.
Reviewing your end game and plan can also help you identify and anticipate future needs you may want to start preparing for now.
For example, if you’re looking to hire someone or get hired for a position a few months or even a year out, begin making connections that might be the right person or opportunity you’re looking for now or set you up to meet them at the right point in time. Periodically check in with them and add value to them and their lives.
2. Organize your plan
Make a list of all possible steps that need to be taken en route to your goals and intentions. It’s important to have the details and know how they fit together. Then organize it in a logical way in bite-sized chunks so it’s more manageable and know the progress you intend to make each week. This can take time and will be worth it.
For example, if you’re writing a book and you’d like to get a draft of the manuscript done this quarter, the thought might be daunting. However, if you know you’ve got 10 chapters and there are 13 weeks in the quarter commit to completing one chapter each week. That will leave you three weeks as a buffer and all you focus on is what’s required to complete that one chapter each week.
3. If you’ve got a problem you’re looking to solve, have specific criteria for change
Do you know how specifically you will know your problem or challenge has disappeared?
So often people know what they don’t want and don’t identify what they DO want. And if they think they know what they want, it’s not specific enough.
Here’s an example. If you don’t want to be disorganized, you may think simply saying you want to be more organized is enough. It’s not. You need to give yourself more clear and specific real-life guidance to sink your teeth into. What would it look like, sound like and feel like? What would the specific actions be?
If you are organized, you’ll have a calendar and use it every day. You’ll have a plan for the quarter, plans for each week and check to ensure you’re making appropriate progress. If not, you will adjust your plan. You will time block your daily activities in advance and stick to those time blocks. You will speak to your team for 15 mins every morning and 15 mins at end-of-day. You will check your emails at noon and 4pm only and ensure you “close out” your day so you know what’s complete, what’s in progress and what the next steps are.
Your definition may be different from the one above, however, you do need to know what specifically you’ll be doing or not doing that’s different from what you’re doing now so you can begin to put those steps in place.
4. Track your progress
Know your numbers that will help you determine whether or not you’re on the right track or else you will not have the data to make intelligent decisions to stick with the plan you’ve got or course correct moving forward.
5. You must acknowledge the progress you ARE making along the way.
This may seem straight-forward. If you don’t build the success muscle, it won’t know how to work and you’ll keep chasing a dream that when you receive likely won’t be satisfying anyway.
Each day, ask yourself, “what’s good?” and “what progress have I made today?” Take a moment to reflect, celebrate, share it with someone, write it in a success journal or do whatever works for you. Just do something because what you focus on expands.
6. Express yourself.
Face it, you’re a human and humans have emotions. While it’s great to be calm and relaxed, there are times you may feel higher energy emotions like anger, frustration or rage that actually need to be expressed so they don’t build up and become suppressed inside.
You can let it out by going for a hard run, punching a punching bag, crying or even verbally letting it out (just be careful who you’re around when doing this, they may get the wrong idea), doing some deep cleaning like washing a floor on your hands and knees or even scrubbing the baseboards can be helpful.
The point here is that you can’t always journal or meditate your emotions away. You need to express what’s deep within.
7. Get real with yourself.
If you’ve had a goal and have not made progress, you either don’t want it or haven’t been willing to do the work required yet.
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek. If your dream or desire is big enough, you WILL have to do things you don’t want to do and that make you highly uncomfortable. Are you WILLING to do them? If not, stop beating yourself up for not moving forward.
Sometimes you spend time focused on one activity and avoid what’s most important.
For example, many people, when starting a business, think they need to have everything set: their messaging, their logo, their website, their packages, etc.
While these are all valuable and important, ultimately profit is the first order of business. And the one thing most new business owners avoid is talking to people and asking them to work with them. You need clints because profit is the first order of business. The website can wait!
8. If you don’t deal with a deep-rooted limiting belief, it won’t just go away.
You have perceptions about who you are, what you think you’re worth, what you’re capable of and how you feel about yourself. If deep down, you have a belief that you’re not good enough, not worthy enough, unlovable, powerless or something along those lines, it won’t matter how much you want something, you’ll find a way to sabotage yourself along the way.
To do this, you’ve got to go several layers deep and face your biggest baggage that’s been weighting you down.
This is something I actually help clients do 1:1 in a personal breakthrough setting. If you’re looking for guidance and feel stuck, I’m happy to have a complimentary consultation with you to see if you might have deep-rooted limiting beliefs holding you back too.
The new year has arrived! A few are prepared, many are not and some are in the midst of preparations.
One reason people simply don’t set goals or set ineffective ones is that they simply don’t know where to start and how to make most of the process.
Back in 2004, I worked in financial services and our branch manager called us in for a special meeting. We had no idea what she had planned. It was a goal setting workshop. It was also a eye-opening experience.
I didn’t know what I wanted. I had always been intimidated making decisions that would impact my future. I also realized this was something I needed to keep doing. Every year since, I’ve gone through a deliberate goal setting and dream stretching.
I’ve studied many other systems, so overtime, it’s evolved and become more refined.
There are four aspects to explore to lay the foundation for this process: look back, assess the now, decide what you want for your future and make a plan.
Below I’ve listed some suggested questions and instructions so you can have guidance and the process can be even more meaningful to you. Go through them and feel free to add some of your own if that resonates with you.
I’d also recommend going through this with pen and paper versus digitally. You can create a summary if you’d like once you’re complete but let the first draft flow to you and through you.
Look back
What are some wins you’ve had, milestones you hit and things you accomplished in 2023?
What goals did you not accomplish you’d like to carry forward?
What did you learn?
Your Now
What are the key areas of your life? What hats do you wear in each?
How satisfied are you in each of the different areas of your life?
Where are you aligned?
Where are you not?
What are you conveniently ignoring?
What experiential aspect of your life are you seeking at this stage?
Your Future
Dare to dream and imagine if you had unlimited time, money, energy, talent and resources, what would you want?
Reconnect to your life’s vision.
What would you love to see in each of the major areas in your life by the end of 2024?
What would you love to experience? How would you like to grow? What contribution would you like to make?
What big, juicy goal(s) would you like to set for the New Year?
What are the sprints to get to each goal?
Connect to the energy of yourself, your goals and your future self who will accomplish them.
Create a plan and get it into your calendar.
Make It Real
A dream without a plan is just a wish. taking the time to plan your future is crucial and a key step most people miss.
They just don’t get to it.
They let life get in the way.
The questions above are just a starting point. Now it’s up to you to do the work.
So, get focused, get clear, and start deliberately creating your future so you can positively impact your life and the lives of future generations across the globe.
Time, the elusive resource you wish you had more of. You constantly find yourself yearning for additional hours in the day, desperately seeking ways to extend your precious time. But what if the key to unlocking more time isn’t actually about having more hours, but rather about optimizing the energy you bring to each and every moment?
In this article, you’ll explore how energy, or the lack thereof, is the true thief of time and how you can make better use of it by taking charge of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
Banish Brain Fog
Reducing brain fog is an essential step towards maximizing your energy reserves. Staying hydrated, nourishing your body with vital nutrients (real, whole foods, not processed or from a box), and engaging in regular physical activity can significantly improve cognitive function and mental clarity.
By fuelling your brain with the right ingredients, you can enhance your ability to focus, make decisions, and complete tasks efficiently. This is not complicated. And it’s a step most people miss.
Have a Compelling Reason
Having a compelling reason or motivation (a.k.a., “big juicy goal”) behind your actions is crucial in ensuring that you are utilizing your time effectively. When you understand why you are doing what you do, you tap into a wellspring of energy that propels you forward.
When you have a clear sense of purpose and derive meaning from your daily activities, you’ll be more likely to experience higher levels of motivation and productivity.
Prepare and Plan
Being prepared and having a well-thought-out plan is another vital aspect of utilizing your time wisely. Contrary to popular belief, spending time on planning actually creates more time in the long run. By taking a proactive approach and setting clear goals, you eliminate unnecessary guesswork and reduce time wasted on indecision and backtracking.
Research suggests that individuals who prioritize planning and organization are better equipped to manage their time efficiently and achieve their desired outcomes…. and who doesn’t want those big, beautiful and juicy goals?
Take Part in Active Leisure
How you choose to spend your downtime plays a significant role in our overall energy levels. Engaging in active leisure activities, such as hiking, dancing, or playing a sport, not only rejuvenates your body but also recharges your mind. These activities stimulate your senses, promote creativity, and enhance your overall well-being. On the other hand, passive leisure activities like binge-watching television shows or mindlessly scrolling through social media may provide temporary distraction but ultimately leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled.
Focus on (and do) Result-Driven Activities
A key principle to make the most of your time is to focus on result-driven activities. When you allocate your energy to tasks that directly contribute to your desired outcomes, you create a positive feedback loop. As you start seeing tangible results, your motivation spikes, fuelling you with even more energy to tackle future endeavours. By directing your attention and efforts towards high-impact activities, you ensure that your time is well spent and your energy is channeled effectively.
Here’s what you really need…
In conclusion, the notion of needing more time is a misconception. What you truly need is to make better use of the time you have by optimizing your energy. Do this and in a few short months you’ll need a telescope to see how far you’ve come.
His eyes sparkled, entire face smiled and he was radiating satisfaction from head to toe in ways I hadn’t seen before. He was in the driver’s seat. He was in charge. It was his first “Yes Day!” … and giving him this gift made me feel absolutely incredible.
So, what’s a “Yes Day!”?
It’s a day where parents say yes to requests from their children.
A few months back, I saw this concept posted on my mentor Kelly Roach’s social media page that she had a “Yes Day!” with her daughter and it sounded beautiful!
As I decided to write this article, I just found out it was a concept popularized by a movie starring Jennifer Garner.
How my son’s “Yes Day!” Played out
He woke up just before 8am, came to me in the living room and said “mama, today is my ‘Yes Day!’” Then he asked for cuddles on the sofa an my heart was melting.
His next request was to play chess. He didn’t ask me to let him win, so I found an opportunity to win and he was cool with it. Whew!
He had an avocado toast breakfast of champions, with the most important ingredient, mayonnaise, then we got dressed and headed out to the zoo.
Before arriving, he wanted an ice cream, so that happened around 10am.
At the zoo, we purchased a season’s pass, got two buckets of treats to feed the animals and he took sooooo many pictures of every animal he saw. He loved it and told me all about the animals.
In the gift shop, he asked for a stuffy and ended up purchasing seven!!!
He took them all to the car and cuddled them all the way home.
It was time to eat lunch an snacks in front of the TV surrounded by his stuffies and spend the afternoon watching…. Ninjago (a show we never let him watch).
Way too many episodes later as the sun began to go down, it was time to head to the beach to jump on rocks and go for a walk.
He asked me to carry him home, so I agreed… until… he called me a “poo-poo face” and refused to apologize. I had to draw the line and would not pick him up again without a proper apology…. He was not impressed I wouldn’t pick him up so he cried and shouted at me all the way home for the neighbors to hear… and hear they did! It was not a pretty site.
After a good hissy fit, he came to his senses, asked for a book and some cuddles and we went to bed.
Despite the rocky ending, I’d definitely do it again. However, next time I’d set out a few more rules in advance.
The rules we had and rules I should have considered
This time, my rule was to say yes to requests that are legal, moral, ethical and safe. He respected these rules and kept reminding me of the safety piece by running different scenarios: “you won’t say yes if I climb a tree that’s too high and not strong enough to hold me up…”
I’d definitely keep these rules and other rules I’d consider adding in the future include:
Vegetables and healthy foods must be eaten before sugar and candy
Basic manners must still be followed. Please, thank you, apologizing and owning mistakes, etc.
Consider a spending limit per place or perhaps for the entire day. It wasn’t astronomical, however, it could have been.
Perhaps keeping it to a specific geographic location. My husband said “thank goodness he didn’t ask to go on a plane to see grandma Saturday evening…”
Not saying yes to screen time, so other activities are encouraged
Saying yes to things that will happen now/that day, not in the future
Also, I’d consider asking your child if there are any other rules they would like to add. They might surprise you.
Overall, it was a great day!
I wasn’t sure what he was going to ask for and knew it could have been full of surprises. Yet, my son kept it simple and did things that totally satisfied him. Being in charge was a huge confidence boost and empowering opportunity for him.
If you’re considering a yes day for your kids, I highly recommend it. Have a conversation with them, let them know what to expect and what the ground rules are and let yourself have fun and your kids sure will too.
When you do hold your “Yes Day!” I’d love to know how it goes.
There was a profound moment I remember so clearly from a year ago, on February 3, 2022. I was at the cottage, and while meditating, had an overwhelming flood of emotions and deep spiritual connection with one of my mentors, Bob Proctor.
He was one of the world’s most influential forces in the area of possibility thinking, prosperity and personal growth.
I gave gratitude for this moment and proceeded to turn on my computer to check my emails when I saw a message that Bob Proctor had passed away.
While his body left this physical world, Bob Proctor’s lessons, legacy and spirit continue to live on.
Here are a few of the greatest lessons I learned from being a student of his and spending time in his world.
Study Every Day
Bob dropped out of the traditional school system at an early age and took on a series of jobs he never thrived at. When he was 26, he was given a book, Think and Grow Rich, by one of his mentors and since that day, read it every day.
While he continued to expand his wealth of knowledge, this was one body of work he kept coming back to over the years and was considered an authority on the subject.
Whenever people would ask for his advice, he’d say “You’ve got to study. Study every day.” He taught me not only to study to fill my knowledge base, but to also study myself and really get to know who I am, how I operate and what my deepest desires are.
Deep down, for many years, I’d always wanted to take the time to study, learn and grow every day and when Bob set it as a standard, it gave me permission to do the same. Bob would often quote Vernon Howard and say “you can’t escape a prison if you don’t know you’re in one.” When you study every day and combine that with a sense of purpose and create a sense of faith based on understanding, miracles are possible for you.
Studying for me has truly been transformational in how I now look at myself, see the world, the people in it and opportunities all around.
Action is Required
While studying is nice, action is where the learning really begins. Bob would say “if you want to have something, you first must DO something.” He’d consistently remind me of the knowing doing gap and how I already know what I need to do, I just need to actually do it, do more of it and do it even better.
You’ve Got To Have A Goal
When Bob talked about goals, he talked about big, juicy goals. Deep dreams and desires that stretch you way beyond your comfort zone. While achieving the goals may be nice, these goals are really about who you become along the way. They get you to stop playing small and realize that anything really is possible and it is possible for you!
Be Generous
Bob was the ultimate giver of time, money and energy. He was wealthy because he gave. He lived in the spirit and frequency of generosity and was rewarded with a rich and fulfilling life.
A powerful practice he learned from his mother when he was young. Growing up in WWII days, scarcity was prevalent in all aspects of life and while his mother didn’t have much, there was a family that lived down the street didn’t have coal to heat their house. When Bob mentioned this to her, she gave him a $20 bill and asked Bob to go buy $10 of coal (a lot of money at the time and half of what his mother had) and give it to the family. She didn’t even now them.
Yesterday, I met with a mentor who also worked with and studied with Bob. He mentioned to me that Bob always sat at the front of the plane and back of the car. One time while they were travelling together, Bob overheard another passenger mention that he’d forgotten his cufflinks and he sounded distressed. Bob asked the passenger what seat he was in and he told him. Once they were airborne, Bob went up into his carry on baggage and pulled out his box of cufflinks. He went over to give the passenger a pair of cufflinks. When he came back, he was beaming, because not only had he given him a pair of cufflinks, he’d given the passenger his best cufflinks. What a beautiful example of spontaneous generosity that he always encouraged his students to do!
Make People Feel Special
One message Bob continually demonstrated is the ability to make people feel seen, special and important. He’d learn their names, give them genuine compliments, be interested in them and say thank you for the service they provided. Leaving people with the impression of increase is key!
Bob’s Son Brian often shares a story when he was in fourth grade and about to go to a new school. He was not confident and Bob suggested he see everyone with a MMFI (make me feel important) on their forehead. That was a philosophy Brian carried forward throughout his life and allowed him to make friends and connections easily after that moment.
Money is a Mirror and Magnifier
People universally desire to be happy, healthy and wealthy. While happy and healthy are important, money is the only one of the three that can actually be measured to the penny.
Bob would always say that if you don’t like your results in life, you’ve got to make some changes to yourself, your life and your belief system. Because the results you get in any area are a direct reflection of your mental programming.
He was never shy to ask people the most amount of money they earned, because it demonstrated where their belief system and financial thermostat was set. He reminded us that money is a magnifier and will simply make you more of who you are and will come to you when you are in alignment with it. Many people are afraid of money because they don’t want to be perceived as greedy, selfish or uncaring. Others crave it and are bitter they don’t have it. These are the best opportunities to look within and change your paradigm.
At one time, Bob was earning a lot of money and spending it foolishly. When he realized this, he began to change how he showed up in life and shifted the money he was earning to do good. He felt better and others thrived as a result.
Work With The Law
The laws of the universe are unseen forces that most people don’t understand or even know are there. Bob not only understood the law, he worked with it, lived it and shared it with everyone he came across. When you work with the law, it opens up the world of what’s possible for you so you can make better choices, have the confidence to go for bigger goals and have the faith to move forward in spite of insurmountable obstacles because you’re ultimately a spiritual being having a human, physical experience at your core.
Go For What You Really Want, Don’t Hold Back And Challenge Conventional Thinking
Bob believed there is greatness in all of us. He truly believed that you’re capable of doing anything! He’d never let you settle or say “I can’t.” Bob would be the first one to cheerlead you on to go for your dream NOW. Why wait?
He taught his students to think FROM possibility and beyond the boundaries of common thinking.
When Mary Morrisey was going to purchase her dream home, she was applying for a mortgage and Bob challenged her. He asked why she was applying for a mortgage and why she didn’t simply go out and earn the money to buy the house. Her spine straightened up when she realized she hadn’t even considered that possibility.
One of the greatest challenges Bob was most widely known for was challenging you to you’re your annual income into their monthly income. So often, you settle for less than you’re capable of or create goals that you feel obligated to have and leave yourself behind. This is no way to live.
You’ve got to go for what you want and follow your passions and dreams. It’s the most fulfilling way to live. Find your purpose and live it, because it’s something people will benefit from long after you’re gone.
Selling is Helping
Bob had a natural gift as a sales man and when he spoke, people wanted to be in his presence. He knew the information he had to share was special and would transform their life, because he’d seen it done time and time again in his more than 60-years in the personal growth and development industry.
He would consistently remind me that if I didn’t give someone the opportunity to work with me, I was robbing them of a potential massive and radical transformation. At first this felt uncomfortable. And quickly, I realized he was right. People are stuck, just like I was. And I am blessed for all the opportunities I’ve been helped in the past.
Death Can Be Something To Look Forward To
In the years leading up to his physical departure here on earth, Bob was often asked about his perspective on dying and he had a beautiful attitude toward it. While he knew one day his physical body would pass, his spirit would continue to live on. He didn’t know what was in store for him, and he was looking forward to finding out. He began to adopt this perspective after studying Robert Russel’s “Dry Those Tears,” a wonderful perspective on the meaning of life and life after death.
Bob prided himself on doing work he loved till the day he died and he absolutely did. He gave people hope. He helped people see the good in themselves that he saw in them. He lived his mission. He made the moments count. And for that I am thankful. As many others are across the globe.
In closing
If we could all have an attitude and presence like Mr. Bob Proctor, the world would truly be an even more magical place than it is.
I hope these lessons have inspired you to pay a little more attention to yourself and allow yourself to step into your truth and challenge yourself beyond what you ever thought possible. I know I’m certainly a different person because of him and I’m someone who truly loves and knows myself in ways I couldn’t have imagined before working with Bob. While his physical body has departed, I continue to study with him every day and allow his lessons to guide me as well as the beautiful students at the Abundance Academy.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, Bob.
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Abundance isn’t something you need to sign up and wait in line for, it’s something you can have any place, any time and in as much quantity as you choose. It’s something you can have now regardless of the perceived status of your health, wealth, relationships or any other aspect of your life.
Because it’s not something you seek, it’s something you already have, abundance is inside you and all around you. All you’ve got to do to activate abundance and acknowledge it.
Know that everything you believe is true and everything that’s true to you IS true to you, regardless of what others think.
What is abundance?
Abundance is about plentifulness of the good things of life. It’s a very large quantity of something and can even be seen as an overflow.
It can also be referred to as prosperity, affluence, wealth, opulence, comfort, well-being, luxury, plentifulness, fruitfulness, profusion and plenteousness.
It’s important you seek abundance for the right reasons and make it a part of your everyday life!
People often seek abundance when they’re in a place of lack and scarcity. Here’s the thing, what you focus on expands and everything is energy.
If you truly want more abundance in your life, make it a part of your everyday and simply how you choose to live. It’s not something you want to attempt to binge on when you really think you need it. That’s when it will backfire on you.
Know that you CAN have your life go right more of the time.
Know that you CAN tune into the abundance with just a little deliberate and consistent effort.
And you CAN see your goals and dreams unfold before your eyes with absolute certainty.
Here are 10 ways you can have more abundance in your life
1. Count your blessings.
Your life is already full of abundance. Until you acknowledge and appreciate what you do have, you can’t be in a position to attract more.
Make a list and don’t hold back. Think of all areas in your life: health, wealth, relationships, your physical space, and more.
2. Add value to others
Tony Robbins says “the secret to living is giving.” When you add value to others by giving your time, money or energy, not only does it lift them up, it lifts you as well. It puts you in an elevated vibration and abundance cycle.
The key to this is to make sure the giving is for the right reasons and done joyfully. If not, don’t do it.
3. Forgiveness
Forgiveness is about you more than another person. You’re holding onto a negative story and toxic energy that’s not serving either of you.
There’s a 3-step process Michael Beckwith teaches when unfavorable situations come up. This is great to apply when it comes to forgiveness, because it paves the path for forgiveness and effective closure.
Step 1: It is what it is, accept it. You don’t have to like it or agree with it. It happened.
Step 2: Harvest the good. When something bad happens, it has the equal and opposite opportunity for something good. What good can come of this situation? What can you learn from it?
Step 3: Forgive all the rest. Here’s where you let it go. Write a letter of forgiveness. Create a picture of the bad situation and imagine it blowing it away like a dandelion or any other metaphor that’s meaningful for you.
4. Peak experience
Go out and create or have a peak experience. Something that lights you up. This can be something big or small. It needs to be different from your daily norm and something that will surprise you, delight you and engage your 5 senses in fresh new ways.
5. Feel the love through the power of touch
Gary Chapman, author of the 5 Love Languages has classified physical touch as one of the 5 key love languages we have. It’s a phenomenal way for us to connect with one another as humans, animals and even textured objects. Cuddles, hugs, hand-holding, petting, whatever your flavor is, add touch to your day and take the time to feel it!
6. Get grounded
The term grounding, also known as earthing, refers to contact with the Earth’s surface to stabilize the electrical environment of your organs, tissues and cells.
It’s been shown to improve sleep, reduce chronic pain, reduce levels of cortisol, reduce the electrical fields induced on the body, shift from sympathetic nervous system to parasympathetic activation and improve overall wellbeing.
Modern lifestyle separates humans from this type of contact and natural environmental flow, so it’s important to literally “take your shoes off and stay a while” on grass, sand, dirt and in water or any surface connected directly to the earth.
You can also step out and connect with any of the elements of nature: air, water, looking at fire, being around trees and more.
7. Indulge – bath, facial, massage
Putting yourself first and taking the time to meet your wants and needs is key, even if they seem frivolous. When you take the time to indulge in life’s pleasures, whatever is most important for you, you are letting yourself (and your unconscious mind) know you’re number one in your life.
So take a bubble bath, go for a facial, book a massage, add some essential oils to your bedding. Let your creativity go wild!
8. Count your blessings
This world really is abundant. Your heart beats 100,000 times per day, you breathe 22,000 times per day, there are 100,000 blades of grass in a square meter and 2 million grains of sand in just one cup. Notice how amazing this world is and if you want to enter a meditative trance, count your breaths or these blessings around you.
9. Give gratitude
Gratitude is the practice of giving thankful appreciation for what you receive, either tangible or intangible. It’s a practice that’s been around for thousands of years across all cultures and religious practices across the globe.
You can write what you’re grateful for, say “thank you” and look for things that you love, appreciate and are thankful for throughout your day. The most important thing is that you actually feel grateful for your gratitudes.
10. Dare to dream & imagine the possibilities
Albert Einstein said that “Imagination is the most powerful force in the universe.”
When you step into your world of imagination,
Your unconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. When you enter the world of your imagination, you can access things that are not possible in your normal and ordinary every day. Anything really is possible. And it’s real in that moment.
Take action now!
Marie Forleo says “insight without action is worthless.” So, what abundance-filled action are you going to do now? Make sure to keep letting these and other abundance-inspired actions you think of be a part of your everyday life and way of thinking.
Ready to take your Abundance to a whole other level?
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