The new year has arrived! A few are prepared, many are not and some are in the midst of preparations.
One reason people simply don’t set goals or set ineffective ones is that they simply don’t know where to start and how to make most of the process.
Back in 2004, I worked in financial services and our branch manager called us in for a special meeting. We had no idea what she had planned. It was a goal setting workshop. It was also a eye-opening experience.
I didn’t know what I wanted. I had always been intimidated making decisions that would impact my future. I also realized this was something I needed to keep doing. Every year since, I’ve gone through a deliberate goal setting and dream stretching.
I’ve studied many other systems, so overtime, it’s evolved and become more refined.
There are four aspects to explore to lay the foundation for this process: look back, assess the now, decide what you want for your future and make a plan.
Below I’ve listed some suggested questions and instructions so you can have guidance and the process can be even more meaningful to you. Go through them and feel free to add some of your own if that resonates with you.
I’d also recommend going through this with pen and paper versus digitally. You can create a summary if you’d like once you’re complete but let the first draft flow to you and through you.
What are some wins you’ve had, milestones you hit and things you accomplished in 2023?
What goals did you not accomplish you’d like to carry forward?
What did you learn?
What are the key areas of your life? What hats do you wear in each?
How satisfied are you in each of the different areas of your life?
Where are you aligned?
Where are you not?
What are you conveniently ignoring?
What experiential aspect of your life are you seeking at this stage?
Dare to dream and imagine if you had unlimited time, money, energy, talent and resources, what would you want?
Reconnect to your life’s vision.
What would you love to see in each of the major areas in your life by the end of 2024?
What would you love to experience? How would you like to grow? What contribution would you like to make?
What big, juicy goal(s) would you like to set for the New Year?
What are the sprints to get to each goal?
Connect to the energy of yourself, your goals and your future self who will accomplish them.
Create a plan and get it into your calendar.
Make It Real
A dream without a plan is just a wish. taking the time to plan your future is crucial and a key step most people miss.
They just don’t get to it.
They let life get in the way.
The questions above are just a starting point. Now it’s up to you to do the work.
So, get focused, get clear, and start deliberately creating your future so you can positively impact your life and the lives of future generations across the globe.
There was a profound moment I remember so clearly from a year ago, on February 3, 2022. I was at the cottage, and while meditating, had an overwhelming flood of emotions and deep spiritual connection with one of my mentors, Bob Proctor.
He was one of the world’s most influential forces in the area of possibility thinking, prosperity and personal growth.
I gave gratitude for this moment and proceeded to turn on my computer to check my emails when I saw a message that Bob Proctor had passed away.
While his body left this physical world, Bob Proctor’s lessons, legacy and spirit continue to live on.
Here are a few of the greatest lessons I learned from being a student of his and spending time in his world.
Study Every Day
Bob dropped out of the traditional school system at an early age and took on a series of jobs he never thrived at. When he was 26, he was given a book, Think and Grow Rich, by one of his mentors and since that day, read it every day.
While he continued to expand his wealth of knowledge, this was one body of work he kept coming back to over the years and was considered an authority on the subject.
Whenever people would ask for his advice, he’d say “You’ve got to study. Study every day.” He taught me not only to study to fill my knowledge base, but to also study myself and really get to know who I am, how I operate and what my deepest desires are.
Deep down, for many years, I’d always wanted to take the time to study, learn and grow every day and when Bob set it as a standard, it gave me permission to do the same. Bob would often quote Vernon Howard and say “you can’t escape a prison if you don’t know you’re in one.” When you study every day and combine that with a sense of purpose and create a sense of faith based on understanding, miracles are possible for you.
Studying for me has truly been transformational in how I now look at myself, see the world, the people in it and opportunities all around.
Action is Required
While studying is nice, action is where the learning really begins. Bob would say “if you want to have something, you first must DO something.” He’d consistently remind me of the knowing doing gap and how I already know what I need to do, I just need to actually do it, do more of it and do it even better.
You’ve Got To Have A Goal
When Bob talked about goals, he talked about big, juicy goals. Deep dreams and desires that stretch you way beyond your comfort zone. While achieving the goals may be nice, these goals are really about who you become along the way. They get you to stop playing small and realize that anything really is possible and it is possible for you!
Bob was the ultimate giver of time, money and energy. He was wealthy because he gave. He lived in the spirit and frequency of generosity and was rewarded with a rich and fulfilling life.
A powerful practice he learned from his mother when he was young. Growing up in WWII days, scarcity was prevalent in all aspects of life and while his mother didn’t have much, there was a family that lived down the street didn’t have coal to heat their house. When Bob mentioned this to her, she gave him a $20 bill and asked Bob to go buy $10 of coal (a lot of money at the time and half of what his mother had) and give it to the family. She didn’t even now them.
Yesterday, I met with a mentor who also worked with and studied with Bob. He mentioned to me that Bob always sat at the front of the plane and back of the car. One time while they were travelling together, Bob overheard another passenger mention that he’d forgotten his cufflinks and he sounded distressed. Bob asked the passenger what seat he was in and he told him. Once they were airborne, Bob went up into his carry on baggage and pulled out his box of cufflinks. He went over to give the passenger a pair of cufflinks. When he came back, he was beaming, because not only had he given him a pair of cufflinks, he’d given the passenger his best cufflinks. What a beautiful example of spontaneous generosity that he always encouraged his students to do!
Make People Feel Special
One message Bob continually demonstrated is the ability to make people feel seen, special and important. He’d learn their names, give them genuine compliments, be interested in them and say thank you for the service they provided. Leaving people with the impression of increase is key!
Bob’s Son Brian often shares a story when he was in fourth grade and about to go to a new school. He was not confident and Bob suggested he see everyone with a MMFI (make me feel important) on their forehead. That was a philosophy Brian carried forward throughout his life and allowed him to make friends and connections easily after that moment.
Money is a Mirror and Magnifier
People universally desire to be happy, healthy and wealthy. While happy and healthy are important, money is the only one of the three that can actually be measured to the penny.
Bob would always say that if you don’t like your results in life, you’ve got to make some changes to yourself, your life and your belief system. Because the results you get in any area are a direct reflection of your mental programming.
He was never shy to ask people the most amount of money they earned, because it demonstrated where their belief system and financial thermostat was set. He reminded us that money is a magnifier and will simply make you more of who you are and will come to you when you are in alignment with it. Many people are afraid of money because they don’t want to be perceived as greedy, selfish or uncaring. Others crave it and are bitter they don’t have it. These are the best opportunities to look within and change your paradigm.
At one time, Bob was earning a lot of money and spending it foolishly. When he realized this, he began to change how he showed up in life and shifted the money he was earning to do good. He felt better and others thrived as a result.
Work With The Law
The laws of the universe are unseen forces that most people don’t understand or even know are there. Bob not only understood the law, he worked with it, lived it and shared it with everyone he came across. When you work with the law, it opens up the world of what’s possible for you so you can make better choices, have the confidence to go for bigger goals and have the faith to move forward in spite of insurmountable obstacles because you’re ultimately a spiritual being having a human, physical experience at your core.
Go For What You Really Want, Don’t Hold Back And Challenge Conventional Thinking
Bob believed there is greatness in all of us. He truly believed that you’re capable of doing anything! He’d never let you settle or say “I can’t.” Bob would be the first one to cheerlead you on to go for your dream NOW. Why wait?
He taught his students to think FROM possibility and beyond the boundaries of common thinking.
When Mary Morrisey was going to purchase her dream home, she was applying for a mortgage and Bob challenged her. He asked why she was applying for a mortgage and why she didn’t simply go out and earn the money to buy the house. Her spine straightened up when she realized she hadn’t even considered that possibility.
One of the greatest challenges Bob was most widely known for was challenging you to you’re your annual income into their monthly income. So often, you settle for less than you’re capable of or create goals that you feel obligated to have and leave yourself behind. This is no way to live.
You’ve got to go for what you want and follow your passions and dreams. It’s the most fulfilling way to live. Find your purpose and live it, because it’s something people will benefit from long after you’re gone.
Selling is Helping
Bob had a natural gift as a sales man and when he spoke, people wanted to be in his presence. He knew the information he had to share was special and would transform their life, because he’d seen it done time and time again in his more than 60-years in the personal growth and development industry.
He would consistently remind me that if I didn’t give someone the opportunity to work with me, I was robbing them of a potential massive and radical transformation. At first this felt uncomfortable. And quickly, I realized he was right. People are stuck, just like I was. And I am blessed for all the opportunities I’ve been helped in the past.
Death Can Be Something To Look Forward To
In the years leading up to his physical departure here on earth, Bob was often asked about his perspective on dying and he had a beautiful attitude toward it. While he knew one day his physical body would pass, his spirit would continue to live on. He didn’t know what was in store for him, and he was looking forward to finding out. He began to adopt this perspective after studying Robert Russel’s “Dry Those Tears,” a wonderful perspective on the meaning of life and life after death.
Bob prided himself on doing work he loved till the day he died and he absolutely did. He gave people hope. He helped people see the good in themselves that he saw in them. He lived his mission. He made the moments count. And for that I am thankful. As many others are across the globe.
If we could all have an attitude and presence like Mr. Bob Proctor, the world would truly be an even more magical place than it is.
I hope these lessons have inspired you to pay a little more attention to yourself and allow yourself to step into your truth and challenge yourself beyond what you ever thought possible. I know I’m certainly a different person because of him and I’m someone who truly loves and knows myself in ways I couldn’t have imagined before working with Bob. While his physical body has departed, I continue to study with him every day and allow his lessons to guide me as well as the beautiful students at the Abundance Academy.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, Bob.
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Studies show that more than 70% of people have no goals. And of those that do set them, 92% don’t achieve their goals!!!
What’s the greatest reason for this? They lack clarity. They don’t have a clear vision or know the direction they are headed. They don’t know who they are and they end up living life by default instead of design.
Clarity is power
Many years ago I was at the San Francisco airport waiting to board a flight that had been delayed.
More often than not, San Francisco is covered by a thick layer of fog in the mornings that causes flight delays.
For those at the airport this fog is a mere inconvenience, as they know where they’re going, the pilot has a plan and they’ll eventually board their plane and get to their destination.
For others, this fog is a metaphor for their life. Hazy, unclear and full of a lot of uncertainty.
It’s said that clarity is power. And that’s true.
A certain level of clarity is necessary for a plane to safely take off and get to its destination.
And when you have clarity in your life, what you want from it and the direction you’re headed, you can step into a life of purpose and fulfilment.
What’s a vision?
Your life vision is the picture of your future exactly how you want it to be. This is where you decide what your expectations for success are, what you want to accomplish in all areas of life and how you want to show up.
Your vision must be created by you. While it can be influenced and inspired by others, it’s not something that can be created by others for you. It may take time to develop and will continue to evolve as you do.
The important thing is to get it started and keep coming back to it.
Why cast a vision for your future?
1. Creates meaning and purpose in your life and your every day
Meaning and purpose bring juice to your life and ultimately lead to a life of fulfilment. Ultimately human beings want to be happy, healthy and wealthy. When you cast the vision, you can do this in an authentic way to you.
2. Creates the standards you set for yourself and how you show up
Your vision will dictate the things you do, places you go and people you spend time with. It’ll help you define the standards you set for yourself. When the things you choose in your life are all aligned, an organic path will be paved for you.
3. Overcome obstacles that come your way
You can only be focused on one thing at a time. When it comes to obstacles, you can be focused om the problem or solution. When you have a vision, you’ll have something to pull you forward and encourage you to find solutions so you can continue moving in that direction.
4. Gets and keeps you focused
Let’s face it. The world is busy and full of distraction. When you have a vision, you’ll know the direction you’re headed, the standards you have for yourself and stay focused on your outcome. It’ll also be easier to say no to the things that don’t align.
Three things to consider for your life vision: be, do & have
When creating your vision, you want to consider who you want to be (your identity), what you want to do (actions and experiences) and wat you want to have (material possessions).
The clearer you get on your be, do and have in each area of your life, the more complete your vision will be.
Areas to include in your life vision
Your life vision is a comprehensive picture of you and your life as you want it to be. Make sure to identify your be, do and have in the following areas:
Health & Wellbeing
Family & Relationships
Career/Business (not money related)
Take your time with it
It’s important not to overthink it and write the first things that come to mind when starting. You can reassess later.
Set some time aside to do this process fully and completely. I’ve had clients take a couple hours on one day and others that have looked at one area per day over the course of a week. However you do it is up to you.
My step-by-step process
When I first attempted to create my life vision, I was frustrated and second guessed myself constantly because I didn’t know if I was on track.
I discovered a fantastic process that I’ve walked many others through with magical results.
So I created a step-by-step tutorial video AND assembled a vision casting worksheet so you can fil in the blanks.
It can’t get easier than that.
Would you like help creating your vision?
Access my FREE vision casting worksheet here. And join us for one of our upcoming LIVE Vision Casting Workshops, where you can get in-person feedback and inspiration.
Enjoy and please do let me know how the vision casting process goes for you.
Abundance is a very large quantity of something and when it comes to you, your future and your potential, Abundance is your birthright. You don’t have to apply for it. It’s just there ready and waiting for you.
I firmly believe we all have the ability to live an abundant and purpose-filled life. As an avid ready, my clients consistently ask me for my recommended reading list. With the plethora of amazing books out there, I could go on and on and on.
To start, here are my top 40 selections to help you life an abundantly healthy, wealthy and happy life.
Download the PDF here
Anatomy of the Spirit – Caroline Myss
Ask and It Is Given – Esther & Jerry Hicks
Atomic Habits – James Clear
Awaken The Giant Within – Tony Robbins
Boundaries – Cloud & Townsend
Creative Visualization – Shakti Gawain
Eat Move Sleep – Tom Rath
Feeling Is The Secret – Neville Goddard
How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie
Hold Me Tight – Dr. Sue Johnson
Limitless – Jim Kwik
Mindset – Carol Dwek
Never Eat Alone – Keith Ferrazzi
Power of Awareness – Neville Goddard
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
Start With Why – Simon Sinek
Strengthsfinder – Tom Rath
Tapping Into Wealth – Lynch & Schwartz
The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman
The 5 Second Rule – Mel Robbins
The Art of Living – Bob Proctor
The Law of Attraction – Esther and Jerry Hicks
The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up – Marie Kondo
The Magic – Rhonda Byrne
The Miracle of Tithing – Mark Victor Hansen
The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod
The Power of Intention – Dr. Wayne Dyer
The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vicent Peale
The Power of Your Subconscious Mind – Joseph Murphy
The Science of Getting Rich – Wallace D. Wattles
The Simplicity Body Cookbook – Jenn Pike
The Sleep Revolution – Arianna Huffington
The Wealth Mindset – Neville Goddard
Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
Unstoppable – Kelly Roach
Working With The Law – Raymond Holliwell
You Too Can Be Prosperous – Robert Russell
You Were Born Rich – Bob Proctor
You2 – Price Pritchett
Your Invisible Power – Genevieve Behrend
When I was 18, I found myself sitting in a financial services office with my hands sweating, heart pounding and throat so full of tension I could barely swallow.
I was sitting in a presentation about money and what it meant.
What I didn’t know is that the discomfort I felt at the time had nothing to do with cold, hard cash.
It had to do with me.
It had to do with my truth.
And it’s what has led me to the path I’ve taken to this day.
I realized that while unlike most 18-year-old kids, who had very little understanding of money, I actually had quite a bit.
However, what I didn’t know was who I was, what I wanted to do with my life, and the magnificence I was truly destined for. And even if I did know, I wouldn’t have believed it at the time.
That day led me on a long journey that’s spanned more than 20 years to date and will continue for the rest of my life.
It led me on the journey of discovering myself and what I am capable of.
I’ll spare you all the details (for now). Let’s just say I took my journey very seriously and since that day have invested more than $300,000 to work with coaches, mentors, mastermind groups, and be involved in elite training programs all over the world.
I became an excellent student and started listening to my wise mentors, whom I was paying a lot of money.
While I learned a lot along the way, the most important lesson I have learned is when NOT to listen to them and when to sit back, be quiet and trust myself.
Dr. Wayne Dyer says “If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you.”
This is so incredibly powerful, because you have all the answers inside of you. You just may not know how to find them and where to find them yet.
That’s what the journey’s all about. You uncovering and unleashing your most magnificent self.
That’s what Abundance Academy is all about. You getting to know and love yourself better than anyone else and being unapologetic along the way.
Wherever you are on your journey, realize there’s always a next step.
Here are 5 ways you can stop listening to everyone else and start listening to (and trusting yourself) more of the time.
You’ve got to put good stuff in to get good stuff out.
Read and listen to positive resources that fill your world with good. Check out our recommended reading list for a place to start. – Book List
Ask yourself intelligent questions about yourself and get to know yourself from the inside out. If you want help with this, consider the Abundance Accelerator Program.
2. Be silent
Meditate, sit in quiet or even go for a walk.
Spend more time with less noise (keep your phone away from you at this time) and pay attention to the messages and signs that come your way.
Realize that the letters in silent also spell listen. Many people hear and don’t really listen. Listening is the key. The messages are there and come to you faster and faster as you hone your intuition.
3. Get objective
We can listen and speak in two ways: story and fact. While both have their place, when you are in story, emotions tend to arise. This is great when you’re watching a romantic or funny movie. Not so good when you’re stressed or need to make intelligent decisions.
That’s when you turn to fact and be objective.
The best way to do that on your own is put pen to paper. Write whatever’s going on in your head exactly how it is, don’t hold back. That way you get things out of you.
Then rewrite it to how you would love it to be. You’ll notice you start to dream and feel better. You’ll also see yourself be in a more resourceful state. From here, you’re in a position to find the answers you seek.
You’ll also notice that your initial story is likely filled with a lot of drama, not productive thoughts, beliefs or habits and is really quite silly when you look at it.
Decision is something that entered into my life in a large way from my mentor Bob Proctor. He studied decision and encouraged all of his students to become excellent decision makers.
It’s one skill we are not taught effectively by our parents or in school.
Decisions are something that must be made on your own without being influenced by the opinions of others and it eliminates confusion by bringing order to your mind.
If you think you’re a bad decision maker, realize you can change that. You just have to practice. So decide to become a masterful decision maker.
5. Review, reflect, refine, repeat
In the 1993 movie Sister Act 2, Whoopi Goldberg makes a point that if you wanna be somebody and you wanna go somewhere, you’d better wake up and pay attention (there’s even a song “Wake Up And Pay Attention with amazing lyrics you can check out).
It’s true. Mindlessly wandering through life won’t get you to where you want to be.
Each day and with each major project or event that comes your way, review it, reflect on what went well and what could be improved on, decide to refine it and go back out to do it again.
Progress is the key to happiness and a fulfilling life. And that’s ultimately what we’re here on this planet to do… live a happy, fulfilling life where we can harness the power of our incredible gifts and unapologetically share them with the world.