His eyes sparkled, entire face smiled and he was radiating satisfaction from head to toe in ways I hadn’t seen before. He was in the driver’s seat. He was in charge. It was his first “Yes Day!” … and giving him this gift made me feel absolutely incredible.
So, what’s a “Yes Day!”?
It’s a day where parents say yes to requests from their children.
A few months back, I saw this concept posted on my mentor Kelly Roach’s social media page that she had a “Yes Day!” with her daughter and it sounded beautiful!
As I decided to write this article, I just found out it was a concept popularized by a movie starring Jennifer Garner.
How my son’s “Yes Day!” Played out
He woke up just before 8am, came to me in the living room and said “mama, today is my ‘Yes Day!’” Then he asked for cuddles on the sofa an my heart was melting.
His next request was to play chess. He didn’t ask me to let him win, so I found an opportunity to win and he was cool with it. Whew!
He had an avocado toast breakfast of champions, with the most important ingredient, Mayonaise, then we got dressed and headed out to the zoo.
Before arriving, he wanted an ice cream, so that happened around 10am.
At the zoo, we purchased a season’s pass, got two buckets of treats to feed the animals and he took sooooo many pictures of every animal he saw. He loved it and told me all about the animals.
In the gift shop, he asked for a stuffy and ended up purchasing seven!!!
He took them all to the car and cuddled them all the way home.
It was time to eat lunch an snacks in front of the TV surrounded by his stuffies and spend the afternoon watching…. Ninjago (a show we never let him watch).
Way too many episodes later as the sun began to go down, it was time to head to the beach to jump on rocks and go for a walk.
He asked me to carry him home, so I agreed… until… he called me a “poo-poo face” and refused to apologize. I had to draw the line and would not pick him up again without a proper apology…. He was not impressed I wouldn’t pick him up so he cried and shouted at me all the way home for the neighbors to hear… and hear they did! It was not a pretty site.
After a good hissy fit, he came to his senses, asked for a book and some cuddles and we went to bed.
Despite the rocky ending, I’d definitely do it again. However, next time I’d set out a few more rules in advance.
The rules we had and rules I should have considered
This time, my rule was to say yes to requests that are legal, moral, ethical and safe. He respected these rules and kept reminding me of the safety piece by running different scenarios: “you won’t say yes if I climb a tree that’s too high and not strong enough to hold me up…”
I’d definitely keep these rules and other rules I’d consider adding in the future include:
- Vegetables and healthy foods must be eaten before sugar and candy
- Basic manners must still be followed. Please, thank you, apologizing and owning mistakes, etc.
- Consider a spending limit per place or perhaps for the entire day. It wasn’t astronomical, however, it could have been.
- Perhaps keeping it to a specific geographic location. My husband said “thank goodness he didn’t ask to go on a plane to see grandma Saturday evening…”
- Not saying yes to screen time, so other activities are encouraged
- Saying yes to things that will happen now/that day, not in the future
Also, I’d consider asking your child if there are any other rules they would like to add. They might surprise you.
Overall, it was a great day!
I wasn’t sure what he was going to ask for and knew it could have been full of surprises. Yet, my son kept it simple and did things that totally satisfied him. Being in charge was a huge confidence boost and empowering opportunity for him.
If you’re considering a yes day for your kids, I highly recommend it. Have a conversation with them, let them know what to expect and what the ground rules are and let yourself have fun and your kids sure will too.
When you do hold your “Yes Day!” I’d love to know how it goes.
Abundance isn’t something you need to sign up and wait in line for, it’s something you can have any place, any time and in as much quantity as you choose. It’s something you can have now regardless of the perceived status of your health, wealth, relationships or any other aspect of your life.
Because it’s not something you seek, it’s something you already have, abundance is inside you and all around you. All you’ve got to do to activate abundance and acknowledge it.
Know that everything you believe is true and everything that’s true to you IS true to you, regardless of what others think.
What is abundance?
Abundance is about plentifulness of the good things of life. It’s a very large quantity of something and can even be seen as an overflow.
It can also be referred to as prosperity, affluence, wealth, opulence, comfort, well-being, luxury, plentifulness, fruitfulness, profusion and plenteousness.
It’s important you seek abundance for the right reasons and make it a part of your everyday life!
People often seek abundance when they’re in a place of lack and scarcity. Here’s the thing, what you focus on expands and everything is energy.
If you truly want more abundance in your life, make it a part of your everyday and simply how you choose to live. It’s not something you want to attempt to binge on when you really think you need it. That’s when it will backfire on you.
Know that you CAN have your life go right more of the time.
Know that you CAN tune into the abundance with just a little deliberate and consistent effort.
And you CAN see your goals and dreams unfold before your eyes with absolute certainty.
Here are 10 ways you can have more abundance in your life
1. Count your blessings.
Your life is already full of abundance. Until you acknowledge and appreciate what you do have, you can’t be in a position to attract more.
Make a list and don’t hold back. Think of all areas in your life: health, wealth, relationships, your physical space, and more.
2. Add value to others
Tony Robbins says “the secret to living is giving.” When you add value to others by giving your time, money or energy, not only does it lift them up, it lifts you as well. It puts you in an elevated vibration and abundance cycle.
The key to this is to make sure the giving is for the right reasons and done joyfully. If not, don’t do it.
Forgiveness is about you more than another person. You’re holding onto a negative story and toxic energy that’s not serving either of you.
There’s a 3-step process Michael Beckwith teaches when unfavorable situations come up. This is great to apply when it comes to forgiveness, because it paves the path for forgiveness and effective closure.
Step 1: It is what it is, accept it. You don’t have to like it or agree with it. It happened.
Step 2: Harvest the good. When something bad happens, it has the equal and opposite opportunity for something good. What good can come of this situation? What can you learn from it?
Step 3: Forgive all the rest. Here’s where you let it go. Write a letter of forgiveness. Create a picture of the bad situation and imagine it blowing it away like a dandelion or any other metaphor that’s meaningful for you.
4. Peak experience
Go out and create or have a peak experience. Something that lights you up. This can be something big or small. It needs to be different from your daily norm and something that will surprise you, delight you and engage your 5 senses in fresh new ways.
5. Feel the love through the power of touch
Gary Chapman, author of the 5 Love Languages has classified physical touch as one of the 5 key love languages we have. It’s a phenomenal way for us to connect with one another as humans, animals and even textured objects. Cuddles, hugs, hand-holding, petting, whatever your flavor is, add touch to your day and take the time to feel it!
6. Get grounded
The term grounding, also known as earthing, refers to contact with the Earth’s surface to stabilize the electrical environment of your organs, tissues and cells.
It’s been shown to improve sleep, reduce chronic pain, reduce levels of cortisol, reduce the electrical fields induced on the body, shift from sympathetic nervous system to parasympathetic activation and improve overall wellbeing.
Modern lifestyle separates humans from this type of contact and natural environmental flow, so it’s important to literally “take your shoes off and stay a while” on grass, sand, dirt and in water or any surface connected directly to the earth.
You can also step out and connect with any of the elements of nature: air, water, looking at fire, being around trees and more.
7. Indulge – bath, facial, massage
Putting yourself first and taking the time to meet your wants and needs is key, even if they seem frivolous. When you take the time to indulge in life’s pleasures, whatever is most important for you, you are letting yourself (and your unconscious mind) know you’re number one in your life.
So take a bubble bath, go for a facial, book a massage, add some essential oils to your bedding. Let your creativity go wild!
8. Count your blessings
This world really is abundant. Your heart beats 100,000 times per day, you breathe 22,000 times per day, there are 100,000 blades of grass in a square meter and 2 million grains of sand in just one cup. Notice how amazing this world is and if you want to enter a meditative trance, count your breaths or these blessings around you.
9. Give gratitude
Gratitude is the practice of giving thankful appreciation for what you receive, either tangible or intangible. It’s a practice that’s been around for thousands of years across all cultures and religious practices across the globe.
You can write what you’re grateful for, say “thank you” and look for things that you love, appreciate and are thankful for throughout your day. The most important thing is that you actually feel grateful for your gratitudes.
10. Dare to dream & imagine the possibilities
Albert Einstein said that “Imagination is the most powerful force in the universe.”
When you step into your world of imagination,
Your unconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what’s real and what’s imagined. When you enter the world of your imagination, you can access things that are not possible in your normal and ordinary every day. Anything really is possible. And it’s real in that moment.
Take action now!
Marie Forleo says “insight without action is worthless.” So, what abundance-filled action are you going to do now? Make sure to keep letting these and other abundance-inspired actions you think of be a part of your everyday life and way of thinking.
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