Let’s face it, some days don’t go according to plan and the stress, anxiety and frustration build. Yet, no matter how much you tell yourself you are being “positive”, you know you’re just faking it and everyone else sees you are too (whether they admit it to you is a different story).
Here’s the thing, when you’re in a negative state, you may not be able to jump from a negative mental mindset to a pristine positive one. It’s not natural and too big of a jump for most humans on the planet.
My suggestion is to get yourself to neutral and then see if you want to continue going up from there. You may, you may not. Either way, the choice is yours and remember it’s your choice.
So next time you are in a funk, check out my Top 5 Mindset Reset Tools that I share with my clients and use myself to reset my mood and elevate my emotions. Best of all, each of them takes 5 minutes or less!
1. Grounding breath with peripheral vision
Stand tall with your feet flat on the floor. Keep your head and chin level and look up with just your eyes. Breathe slowly in through the nose and strongly out through the mouth taking 7 counts or more per inhale and exhale. Do as many breaths as you need to feel calmer and more relaxed in your body. You will have your own physical sensation for this, notice it. Once you’ve entered a state of calm, keep your eyes looking up and gradually allow your gaze to expand out to your sides as far as possible, then imagine that gaze continuing around and connecting behind your body. Lower your eyes and continue with your day.
This exercise will get you into your parasympathetic nervous system and out of your negative emotions. Do it as many times as necessary throughout your day.
2. Do something (anything) fun, physical or that gets you to laugh
When your body moves, your energy grooves. When you or your energy is stagnant, it’s easy to get down. When you’re off, change what you’re doing, perhaps go load or unload the dishwasher or go do the laundry, head out for a walk around the block, do some random burpees, pushups, squats or jumping jacks, turn on some fun tunes and dance around or sing out loud, find some silly YouTube or social media videos (Celeste Barber is certainly my go-to on Instagram). Let your intuition guide you as to what you need at this time.
This will allow you to fill a need you meet a need you have and be able to reset yourself to move on with your day.
3. Rewrite your reality
When you’re off, sometimes you may want to complain and let it all out. This is your chance. Grab a piece of paper and write a few sentences that express how you’re feeling. Say the exact words you’re thinking in your head (you’re not writing a piece of literature) and don’t hold back. When you’ve emptied out, identify how that makes you feel.
Then, take out a fresh sheet of paper or your journal and answer this question “in a universe where anything is possible, what would I want and how would that make me feel?” Write that out and hold those thoughts in your mind for a few seconds. Allow yourself to feel the good feelings and just sit with this moment.
Throw our or tear up the negative story. Energetically let it go. Reread the good story and step into the good feelings once again and fully embrace them.
Do this exercise as many times as necessary throughout your day, or reread the positive story to lift your spirits as your day goes on.
4. What do I want now?
If you’re off, you have some immediate needs that need to be met. It’s important you acknowledge what they are.
Ask yourself, “what do I want now?” then answer with a word or simple phrase for each of the following aspects of yourself: your physical body, vital body, mental body, emotional body, spiritual body
You may find that simply emptying out allows you to feel better and more complete. Sometimes you may need to take a small action towards one of these immediate needs and the rest will organically take care of themselves.
Do this a few times a day and notice how your needs shift throughout your day.
Neville Goddard says that “gratitude brings your whole mind will come into closer harmony with the creative energies of the universe” and he’s right.
When you allow yourself to be grateful for the things you have in your life, it will stop stagnation and connect you to a source of infinite supply of anything you need, wish and desire, including a better day.
A grateful mind continually expects good things and expectation becomes faith. There is a natural and organic flow.
There are so many ways to give gratitude, say thank you, write a few things you’re grateful for, complete a full gratitude practice.
I’ve created a Gratitude Guide with some amazing gratitude practices to get you started or enhance your current practice. You’re welcome to access it here if you’d like some guidance.